Can Tetraplegic Men Have Sex?

It's often thought by many people that once you suffer a spinal cord injury, nothing works below the location of your injury.  To a certain extent this is true.  If you suffer a serious spinal cord injury to the neck, your legs are definitely going to be completely paralysed, you will also suffer paralysis in other parts of the body such as fingers, muscles in your torso etc.  However, even though you may not have any movements in your body, that does not mean you are not able to engage in sexual activities.  In fact, many disabled people are in relationships with able-bodied people and have reasonably good sex lives.

Now, let's not kid ourselves, if you do have a spinal cord injury, then the chances are, you're going to have limited, to no feeling below the level of injury.  If you were sexually active before your accident, you must understand that things are going to be very different.  The lack of feeling is obviously going to make a difference when it comes to oral, penetrative sex.  You are not going to be able to feel what is going on. You may be able to ejaculate but you won't get the same feelings as you would have done when you were able bodied.

Some tetraplegic men are lucky and can get an erection quite easily just by touching the penis. After a few years being disabled you may find that this does wear off and even though getting an erection is easy, sometimes not easy to maintain it long enough to have a good session. A lot of men take drugs such as Viagra in order to maintain an erection. However, it's vitally important that you consult your doctor before taking any pills that can affect your blood pressure. I don't think anyone would enjoy having sex while suffering a serious autonomic dysreflexia attack.

Another alternative is to use some kind of . No, that doesn't involve sticking a bicycle pump up your old chap and pumping. Basically, it uses a kind of vacuum to draw blood into the penis. Once you have an erection, you can use a restrictive band to keep the blood in place. If you look on eBay, they sell all sorts of different penis pumps.

Before you do engage in any penetrative sex, you might be best trying to empty your bladder as much as possible.  Obviously, if you are not able to use a catheter to do this task then tapping your bladder is the next best thing.  I shouldn't get too worried, though, as long as you don't have a urinary tract infection, you're not going to cause any harm if you do pass some water slightly during sex. It really does depend on how your partner feels about you passing urine.  Whereas some people just don't want that kind of thing going on during sex, other partners will not bother about it at all.

If you happen to have a suprapubic catheter then you can just get on with things. Basically, a suprapubic catheter enters the bladder through the skin rather than the penis. Many people opt for this type of catheter because it makes for an easier sex life.

I just covered this subject briefly, I don't think I need to go into great detail about having sex, that just isn't necessary.  As long as you know that a large majority of disabled people are perfectly capable of having sex then you can make the rules up from there